Thoughts Don't Always Disappear

This Survivor Story Has Abuse Triggers

When I was 17, I had a crush on this guy. We talked, but then stuff happened. Things that I never wanted to think about again. Afterwards, when I told people what had happened, they said there’s no way that could be true because who would wanna do that with a fat girl or if it was true you probably liked it. While I may have liked this boy, I liked the option of consent more. They didn't hear me and made me feel like it was my fault.

Confronting My Attacker

Flash forward six years later, I graduated college & was getting ready to apply to graduate school. My attacker reaches out to me, they want to talk... they want to apologize for hurting me & lying and are now on the road to recovery. I confronted my attacker with friends nearby in a public setting to hear what they had to say. I still don't know how I feel about this day. I just knew I needed to do what was right for me for the rest of my life. I went on to graduate school and pursued a career in counseling, advising, and supporting college students.

"I needed to do what was right for me"

13 Years Later

I had suppressed and relived my trauma. I never pressed charges or sought legal action, part of me regrets that now, and I’ve lived with anxiety & trust issues ever since. My ESA shortie and fitness routine keep my anxiety at bay, but I still have bad days. I’m currently 30, (trying to be) flirty, & thriving.

Get Help

If someone in your life is witnessing or experience domestic violence, or if you are a victim yourself, don’t wait. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at or 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).