Warning: this post contains references to physical, mental, and emotional abuse
It’s not uncommon for abuse survivors to come out of unhealthy relationships feeling absolutely shattered. An abuser systematically breaks down his victim – physically, emotionally, and psychologically – until she believes she deserves the abuse and isn’t worthy of anything better.
First of all, let’s start with this: that narrative is absolute bullsh*t. NO ONE deserves abuse, and EVERYONE is worthy of a healthy, happy, and safe life.
After an abusive situation, it’s difficult for survivors to adjust to a healthy, loving partnership. If you’re struggling to trust again after surviving abuse, you’re not alone.
Take Time to Pause
Flying solo can feel scary, but it’s often when we see just how capable we are. After an abusive relationship, it’s wise to take some time to evaluate your life, your values, and your needs.
If you’ve experienced abuse, you need time to heal. Consider seeking out professional help or support groups that can help you process your experience. Practice self-love and self-care. Learn all you can about healthy relationships: what they look like, sound like, and feel like. Discover what makes you happy.
Sometimes, pressing pause is the best possible thing you can do for yourself.
You Are Worthy of a Healthy Relationship
If you only remember one thing today, remember this:
You Are Worthy of a Healthy Relationship.
No matter what is in your past, what you were told, and what happened to you, you’re worthy of happiness. You deserve to be with someone who loves and supports you. You deserve to feel safe in your relationship.
But the first step to healing and happiness is to embrace your most important relationship first: the one you have with yourself.