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The Facade of Shame

Last week we sent a Fri-DAIS email that talked about some of the warning signs of domestic abuse and how the abuse doesn't start with violence.  Often times it starts small, using manipulation to make someone feel small.

We received a reply back from Kristen, a woman who expereinced this exact thing. 

She also shared where WodBottom fits into her story.  I almost didn't include it below because I didn't want this to seem salesy, but the core of everything we do is to support women and help those who are in an abuse relationship.  It is such an honor to be part of Kristen's story and it is literally bringing tears to my eyes as I write I kept it in.  

From Kristen:

"I can 100% confirm the validity of all the listed signs of abuse. Three years ago, my then-fiance started with emotional manipulation. That snowballed into psychological and financial abuse. He then eventually started physical abuse.

Looking back, its interesting how much shame I always felt. I was the victim of his abuse, and I felt shame. It doesn't make sense, but it's their game.

Every time he'd check my receipts to make sure I wasn't lying about where I was, I felt shame.

Every time I would talk to family members without telling him first, I felt shame.

Every time he'd call me disgusting, derogatory names, I felt shame.

Every time he'd accuse me of cheating and demand a lie-detector test if I wanted to marry him, I felt shame.

The list goes on and on and on.

We don't talk about it, because "shame" is pounded into our heads every day. The thought of telling people what was going on terrified me, because I'd assume anyone would feel ashamed of me too. It was easier to pretend everything was okay.

One of the things I started doing was wearing dark, baggy, long clothes every day. No life, no spark. What attracted me to WodBottom after I left him was how unique and fun the patterns were.
I counted my shorts the other day, and I have 60 😂 But I wouldn't have it any other way. Each of those 60 pairs of shorts helped me regain confidence, regain spark, regain my individuality. They have allowed me to express the fun and loud and unique sides of myself, which, after being stifled for so long, has felt so empowering.

There is so much more I could tell about my experiences before and after leaving an abuser, but one thing I can say for sure is that WodBottom has been instrumental in my journey back to ME. The fact that my purchases benefit women coming out of similar situations is everything to me. Thank you for what you've done for me and for what you do for women all over." Kristen C.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, Kristen.  Sharing stories like this help other women recognize that they aren't alone and that they are not to blame.  

If you know someone or are someone who is experiencing these early signs, pleeeaaaaassseeee talk to someone.  1 in 4 women experience abuse at some point in their lives so it is pretty likely you know someone who has also experienced abuse.

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