Manipulators and the Tactics They Use to Stay in Control

After domestic violence occurs, there are different tactics that abusers use to manipulate and maintain control over their partner/the victim. These can be different from each other and some may be harder to notice or even seem harmless. That is why it's so important to learn about them and what they look, sound, or feel like. 

Positive Reinforcement is one of the most common tactics. It can be seen with praise, superficial charm, gifts, even giving attention to the victim after not receiving for awhile.

Traumatic Tactics are very apparent and consists of verbal abuse or explosive anger.

Psychological Punishment may be the silent treatment, nagging, guilt trips, swearing, threats, emotional blackmail, or intimidation. 

Other Tactics consist of isolation, mind games, lying, and sadly, so many more.

All of these tactics create vulnerability for the abuser to take advantage of which makes them feel like they can continue to do what they're doing without any backlash or punishment. The sooner these signs are observed, addressed, and tackled, the sooner the victim will be able to begin healing and receiving the support they need. 

As always, if you or a loved one needs help call the hotline 1-800-799-7233.